Dating Tips - Eye Contact - You'd Better watch it!

Does making eye contact work? Well.. the question you might consider asking is.. how do I make proper eye contact?

If executed perfectly... it'll beat any other method of breaking the ice... but if you fail in this area, you might as well leave the lady alone; worse still... get labeled as some freaky psychotic maniac.
So... here are some Do's and Don'ts:

Do's
1) Keep it casual. Don't appear too serious
2) Stay cool and fun. Look at her, and when she looks at you... look away.
2) Smile. If she smiles back... you are in the game! Most of the time if steps 1 and 2 are done correctly, she'll smile back.


Don'ts
1) Stare - That's bad. You don't want to appear like you are stalking her.
2) Undress her with your eyes.
3) focus on her boobs.
4) Try to lick your lips with your tongue or try to look too sexy (unless you look like Brad Pitt)


Basically, making eye contact should be fun and a good indicator to see if the girl is interested in even talking with you. If she is not... why bother embarrassing yourself by approaching her and getting turned down right?

Remember, it's 50% body language, 40% in the tone of your voice and 10% words when it comes to communicating face to face.




I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is. From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then. What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself. Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

Romantic Umbrella

Love is in the air - For all the romantics out there.... you may fancy this romantic umbrella. Why not right? For better or worse! Sunshine or rain! ; D

I think it will make a pretty good Valentines present...

Hey There Delilah

Plain White T's frontman Tom Higginson wrote this ode to Columbia University steeplechase runner Delilah DiCrescenzo (pic above). There was never a relationship between Tom Higgenson and DiCrescenzo, but Tom was inspired to write a song about her soon after they were introduced by a mutual friend.

It took over a year for Tom to write the song. However, the real life Delilah, was not interested in Tom because she was already in a relationship.

Awww... that's so sweet!! My gf would be more than happy if I could write a song for her :-)
Anyway, here's the song and the lyric. Enjoy!







Hey there Delilah
What's it like in New York City?
I'm a thousand miles away
But girl tonight you look so pretty
Yes you do
Times Square can't shine as bright as you
I swear it's true

Hey there Delilah
Don't you worry about the distance
I'm right there if you get lonely
Give this song another listen
Close your eyes
Listen to my voice it's my disguise
I'm by your side

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
What you do to me

Hey there Delilah
I know times are getting hard
But just believe me girl
Someday I'll pay the bills with this guitar
We'll have it good
We'll have the life we knew we would
My word is good

Hey there Delilah
I've got so much left to say
If every simple song I wrote to you
Would take your breath away
I'd write it all
Even more in love with me you'd fall
We'd have it all

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me

A thousand miles seems pretty far
But they've got planes and trains and cars
I'd walk to you if I had no other way
Our friends would all make fun of us
and we'll just laugh along because we know
That none of them have felt this way
Delilah I can promise you
That by the time we get through
The world will never ever be the same
And you're to blame

Hey there Delilah
You be good and don't you miss me
Two more years and you'll be done with school
And I'll be making history like I do
You'll know it's all because of you
We can do whatever we want to
Hey there Delilah here's to you
This ones for you

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
What you do to me.

Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?

There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese Legend...

Thumb represents your Parents

Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings

Middle finger represents your-Self

Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner

Last (Little) finger represents your children

Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back.

Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip (As shown in the figure on top):

Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)..., they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.

Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)... ., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.

Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)... ., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day. Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT....., because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!! Please try this out......... .... ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?

Date Preparation

You might want to do some preparations before going on a date. Here are some preparation dating tips:

1. Keep nails clean and short. Long nails only look good on gals (Not necessarily)





2. Try to smell good. Bath and put a lil cologne (keyword is "a lil"). My girlfriend sniffs on me all day long. Imagine if you smelt like a cow/ pig.





3. Brush your teeth. Keep it clean and have a refreshing breath.





4. Wear something cool. Don't look like someone from the 70s.





5. Wear some hand accessories i.e. a presentable watch just so that you look more decorative/ less plain. Not everyone looks like Tom Cruise right?





6. Have your shoes and glasses clean. I am sure your date is going to scan you from top to toe.
   

It's all common-sense when it comes to our part but it is 120% sixth sense when it comes to the women. ; ) Lets play our parts right and leave the rest to God ; D

Gwen Stefani On American Idol and More....

I have always been a fan of Gwen since her early days with No Doubt. Here are some pictures of her lately and also my humble opinion to girls when going out on dates.

Gwen to me is hot. She's really the girl all the bad guys want but sometimes her make up is a little too much though. Lately I saw her on American Idol training the contestants and she actually looked great!!!! SUPER!!!! Not because she gave birth... but just simply because she changed her make up. ; )
See what I mean?????? She looks so much better without the thick blood red lipstick she puts on. ...YUKES!!!!! JLo looks pretty stunning too...as always. Again.... Not too much make up on. Gwen... if you are reading my blog (Fat chance I know)..... Keep up with your new make up. You look hotter than ever.
It's really a matter of preference, taste and choice. Some may look good with lots of make up and some look better without. Judge for yourself and ask opinions of others. I noticed alot of young girls these days overdress and over make up.

Another good example...or shall I say bad....is sometimes Miss Aguilera.

Love Letters - An Animated Proposal - v2.0 - A Perfect Proposal

I love this!!! Though the video took a little longer to load but it's super worth the wait!!!! Jeffrey Paul (Director of this animation), I salute you!

Jeffrey Paul produced this animation as a way of proposing to his girlfriend (now wife) Natasha. He assembled a team of 20 animators to assist him, including co-workers, as well as students from his 3D character animation class at the Art Institute of California-San Francisco. They created more than four minutes of animation in just three months. When it was completed, he surprised Natasha by bringing her to the Parkway Movie Theater in Oakland, where they played the animation on the big screen in front of over 100 of their friends and family. The entire event was filmed for the TLC television show "A Perfect Proposal."






Director's Note: I pulled a George Lucas and retrofitted the opening shot of the animation to show a photo of the Natasha design from "The Invitation" rather than the earlier drawing of Natsha I had done, which I was never quite satisfied with. Also, after receiving many a tersely written emails, I finally decided to listen to the fans and have completely removed all scenes with Jar Jar Binks.

24 Ways To Win A Girl's Heart

1.When she asks how she looks, shrug and say “could be better.” This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that.

2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really, really hard until she cries. This will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are.

3. Once a month sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs. They love to be roughed up.

4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she’s sleeping. If she is, say “you better be.” Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care.

5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and every girl needs some improvement.

6. Recognize the small things; they usually mean the most. Then when she’s sleeping, steal all her small things and break them. Because jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies.

7. If you’re talking to another girl, make sure she’s looking. When she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words ‘**** you,’ and grab the other girl’s ass. Girls love competition.

8. Tell her you’re taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it’s going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just kidding and now you’re really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear “…because I can.”

9. Introduce her to your friends as “some chick”. Women love those special nicknames.

10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD.

11. Warm her up when she’s cold… but not by giving her your jacket, because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say, “If you don’t stop *****ing about the cold right now, you’re going to be *****ing about a black eye.” The best way to get warm is with fear.

12. Take her to a party. When you get there she’ll have to go to the bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the party’s dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you at the party.

13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet. Kick the pet. I always find stuff like that funny. Why shouldn’t girls?

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she’s fast asleep, wait 10 minutes then JUMP UP AND SCREAM IN HER EAR! Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things. Like basketball.

15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit.

16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give her self confidence. Then you can never turn her into the object she deep down desires to be.

17. Every time you’re in her house steal one of the following: shoes, earrings, or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This way she’ll go crazy.

18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she’s about to order interrupt and say “No, she’s not hungry”. Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her.

19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then clock her one. Girls love a spontaneous guy.

20. Give her one of your t-shirts… and make sure it has your smell on it. But not a sexy cologne smell. A bad smell. You know what I’m talking about.

21. If you’re listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her no. This way she’ll think you’re mysterious.

22. Remember her birthday, but don’t get her anything. Teach her material objects aren’t important. The only thing that’s important is that she keeps you happy. And your happiness is the greatest present she can ever get.

23. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then next time you know she’s coming over on a trash day leave the trash can open and have the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don’t like this one that much, but I think it’s funny.

24. If she’s mad at you for not calling her when you say you will, promise her that you will call her at a certain time of the day. This will ensure that she waits by the phone. Tell her when you call you’re going to tell her a special surprise. Now she’ll be really excited. Now don’t call. That’s also quite funny!

Originally Posted on LueLinks.

Dating Tips: Looks Does Matter (Sexual Harassment and You Video)

How many times have we heard girls calling guys shallow because all we care about is our looks? I think quite too many to remember right? And these deeper-soul-searching women claim that looks are not that important.

THEY ARE LYING!!!!!

It may not be the only factor on whether or not they choose you as their life long partner but it's going to be probably one of THE MOST important criteria they look into. It's only normal for an individual to want someone attractive (at least to them).

And one of the best ways to be attractive is of course.... the LOOKS!! That physical attraction. Don't for one second think they with just plain good personality you are going to get the girls. You might get lucky but chances are... you are not.

So seriously.... get out there and start looking for ways to look good. Will try to cover in more detail on how we can do that. For now.. I need it myself because I'm getting EXTREMELY fat and trust me... that ain't going to be too attractive. Even Hitch (The Love Doctor) cannot help me.

Check out the video below:



You heard that right ---> Just be:

• Be Handsome
• Be Attractive
• Don't Be Unattractive

Dating Tips: Some Facts about Dating (Part 1)

It's been awhile since I last posted on this field. I was watching "Hitch" the movie just the other day and I truly recommend you people to watch it (if you haven't watched it). Here are a few things that I notice about dating.

Fact #1: Dating is a skill.

It doesn't matter how fit/ good looking/ smart/ rich you are. It's a skill that gets the "players" laid.They've been rejected again and again, time over time till they pick up all the essential skills needed for getting the girls they want.

Fact #2: Confidence is the key to getting your girl.

Just like in the movie... Will Smith was very confident. And he was very smooth (Fact #1: Dating is a skill). Confidence comes from knowledge. KNOW your girl and KNOW what to do. I'm sure you have read that getting girls is like marketing and one of the key ingredients is market research. Why? So that you know your girl and you know whatare her likes and dislikes.

Fact #3: Do things you've never done before to get things you've never had before.

This applies to almost everything in life. If you continue doing the things you do... you'llcontinue attracting the same type of women. So step out of that comfort zone and dosomething new!

I guess that would be all for now. Go watch Hitch if you haven't watched it yet!! It is a MUST watch. ; )


I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is. From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then. What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself. Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

Dating Girls: Teasing

If you are with a girl and you like her... then tease her. Simple as that!!! How???

• --> Be playful. Make fun of her a little.


• --> Arouse her sexually then pull back.

Don't be just plain nice to her and DO NOT throw yourself at her. Girls don't like guys who suck up to them. This seems easy yet so many guys fail to do it simply because they adore and worship the girl way too much.

Fancy your girl but just don't over do it. Send her mixed signals. Women love mind games.

Let them know that you love them and you leave yourself in the hands of rejection. You take a risk by confessing when you are not sure of how the girl feels. Instead... keep her guessing. Let her wonder if you are really into her.

Even while making out, play hard-to-get a little. This would probably get her even more worked up and then you make your move to the next base.

Oh well.. that's another story all together. I guess the key here is to have fun. Play around a little and enjoy each other's company. Good luck guys!!!

I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is. From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then. What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself. Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

Picture from mop.com

Dating Tips: CHEESY Pickup Lines

My guy friends tend to ask for some sure-to-work pickup lines that will seduce the women of their dreams. I think pickup lines can work but not in the way most people see it. It is not some magical word used to get the girl all arroused. It is simply a conversation opener. It is part of the tools to get women.

In order for your pickup lines to work... here are afew things that I would strongly recommend you guys to have a check list on:

• BEFORE - Prepare you and the girl you intend to approach. Meaning... don't just pop up and release your pickup line on her. In other words... do a "silent pickup line" first, ie eye contact. If she doesn't want to even look at you... then forget it. No miricle line can save you.

• DURING - Approach her slowly. Speak confidently and clearly. Maintain a good posture. Don't move around like a monkey while talking to her. Just compliment her on something... anything... and introduce yourself with a handshake. Try to be as original as you can. Why?? Because.. chances are.. if that girl you are after is hot/ cute... 10,000 other guys would have probably used that line on her and you'd just sound like another looser using it on her. ; P

• AFTER - Don't just keep quiet after you compliment her and all. Start some small talk and ask her questions. Small open ended questions. It'll get the ball rolling. Before she knows it... you'd already be talking to her and perhaps getting her phone number.
  

Just remember... it's not only WHAT you say... but HOW you say it. Good luck guys!!!!

Girl in picutre: Brooke Burke

I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is. From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then. What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself. Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

Dating Tips: How Do We Know If A Girl Respects Us??

• Has a woman ever said she just wants to be friends?
• Have you ever been so "nice" to an attractive girl that you find it difficult to say "NO" to her?
• Have you ever complimented a girl only to have her looking not interested or annoyed?
• Have you had hot looking girls coming to you and whine about their "looser" boyfriends?

If your answers to any one of these questions is yes... well... she DOESN'T respect you!! It sucks to know that but it is TRUE!! More importantly..... Women are only attracted to guys they RESPECT.

We can buy her all the diamonds and pearls, be her shoulder to cry on and give her everything "nice" but at the end of the day.. she'll not end up with you. Just like men don't respect women that are too easy, women don't respect men that are too "nice".

So how do we gain respect from a member of the opposite sex?

• Independence and self-reliance. Don't be a "clingy" person. I learnt that the very hard way. ; P Same applies if your girl calls you 10 times a day, every day... every week... every month...
• Have a backbone and stop letting them walk all over you.
  

How do we do it???

• Learn how to say "NO"... in a calm manner. E.g.: "No, I don't want to wait for you to call me 2 hours before the show to see if you are going.
  If you can't make it, let me know now so that I can make other plans or go with someone else!"
• Don't Be Too Nice: Stop buying her all those expensive things. She's going to see you more as a friend instead of a potential lover.
• Be Prepared To leave: If you are not getting what you want from the relationship - LEAVE!
• Plan Out Dates: Show that you know what you are doing. Be decisive. Don't give her the "as you wish dear" line.
• Don't care about what she thinks of you: Remember that your job is to ATTRACT her, not to PLEASE her.
• Learn The Dating Game: If you were a woman.. would you want to go out with this inexperienced guy or would you like to hang out with the type of guy who knows how to treat you right?
  

Hope this will work out for you guys!!

I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is.From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then. What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself. Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

Dating Tips:Your Girl's Not Going To Ride Dirty With You..

I was in my friend's car over the weekend cruising around town. One thing that I noticed was how messy his car was. My girlfriend sure as hell didn't like it and I think most girls wouldn't either.

If you notice.... most single/ divorced men have some of the dirtiest, messiest, smelliest cars in the world. So what you say?Well.. we'd be pretty much depriving ourselves of a second or third date!!!!

Women generally like cleanliness even if they are darn filty and more often than not... they'll judge how clean you are from your first date. If you have one dirty ride with you... they'll probably feel you are this totally disorganised guy. God knows what else they will think.

I remember my car used to have some 'not so decent' DVDs in it and one of the girls I took out on a date found it. Of course she thought I was some naughty cow. She still brings it up today. I managed to kick it off with her though. *GRIN*

So remember guys... clean up your car a little before you take a woman out. Ain't going to go into details. I am sure you guys are very well capable of it. Keep only the cool stuff in like your branded shades or your coat hanged neatly and put the rest away. Putting it in the glove compartment doesn't count. Who knows... you might just get a nosey one in your car right?

Get an air-freshener. You wouldn't want your car to stink would you? I know my current girl hates a car that STINKS! Personally... so do I. That's it for now. Go pimp your rides guys!

(Picture courtousy of Boreme.com)

Dating Tips: Take Over... Take Control Over Your Girl

I think no girl.. and I mean NO girl is going to admit this but it's true!! They love men when they are in control.Not suggesting you guys turn into a control freak... just don't act like a wimp.

"Where should we sit?".. "Up to you"... "You choose". So NOT cool.

I think this would work out better:

"Let's sit over there" "It seems pretty comfy"...and just lead her by taking her hand.

I used to try to be the all obliging 'Yes Mam' kind of guy. It didn't necessarily work out. You can still be Mr nice Guy. Just be assertive and take the lead.

Good luck guys!!


I am no dating consultant/ expert. I have failed before in the past with girls. So I know how painful it is.From then on I learnt to take on a different approach and my success rate with girls have increased tremendously then.What I share here is not from some text book but from both experiences of my friends and myself.Hope these entries can help you guys out. Good luck! ; D

The BIGGEST mistake while trying to get a date

A lot of guys tend to ask... "How do I approach that girl? She's just so drop dead gorgeous?" "What if she laughs at me when I talk to her?" From there on... I realise the BIGGEST mistake while trying to get a date is:-

• Trying so darn hard to make things perfect. As long as you are good enough for her... that'll do it.
• Don't worry you'll make a fool of yourself. You probably will if it is your first time approaching your dream girl.
• The key to it is to actually take ACTION. Why did you think Darren Hayes wrote the song "Crash and Burn" for?
• Learn from your mistakes and you'll only get better.

I understand we only have one shot at making a first impression and she means the world to you but until you practise... you'll never really be good at it.Personally, my record was getting a date from a perfect stranger in seven minutes. How I did it? I got rejected from a girl I once adored. Here's probabya few things that could be done to enhance one's skill:

• Learn to make eye contact with strangers. You can try it with guys first if you are too shy.
• Next... try and learn to smile at them. This is important. If you are going to smile like a serial rapist... you are going to scare her away.
• Flirt with women you talk to casually (even if you don't intend to bag them).
• Compliment the unattractive. It's easier to get a positive feedback from them.
• Don't bother complimenting hot looking girls. They already know it. Instead try teasing them.

I hope it'll work out for you guys as it has worked out for me. Let me know how you guys are doing. Stop worrying... start dating. *winks*

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